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jcrewandcappuccinos: Cara Delevingne in Burberry at the 2013...

Mon, 06 May 2013 19:25:26 -0700

jcrewandcappuccinos:

Cara Delevingne in Burberry at the 2013 Met Gala

Perfection

Photo

Sun, 05 May 2013 00:02:23 -0700

hugz not drugz

Sun, 05 May 2013 00:02:03 -0700

hugz not drugz

melodysblog: #warhol #inspiration

Sun, 05 May 2013 00:00:13 -0700

melodysblog:

#warhol #inspiration

annfriedman: In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for...

Sat, 04 May 2013 23:51:52 -0700

annfriedman:

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

So good

pencilspistolsandcrystals: this takes all my pain...

Sat, 04 May 2013 23:39:43 -0700

pencilspistolsandcrystals:

this takes all my pain away

hilarity

eveweezyla: What kind of bitch takes ten-thousand to drive...

Sat, 17 Sep 2011 12:33:55 -0700

eveweezyla:

What kind of bitch takes ten-thousand to drive Jason Bourne to Paris?

I’D DO IT FOR FREE ;D.

truthbomb

SWIM GOOD!!!! <3 Frank Ocean on FreshJess

Sat, 17 Sep 2011 12:10:00 -0700

SWIM GOOD!!!! <3

Frank Ocean on FreshJess

I am still listening to Watch the Throne on the regular

Sat, 17 Sep 2011 12:08:00 -0700

I am still listening to Watch the Throne on the regular

SONS OF ANARCHY SEASON 4 PREMIERES TONIGHT!!!! If you forgot...

Tue, 06 Sep 2011 15:40:02 -0700

SONS OF ANARCHY SEASON 4 PREMIERES TONIGHT!!!! If you forgot what happened in the 14 months since season 3’s finale, check out this video. <3

BEST BABY ALIVE

Sun, 28 Aug 2011 23:14:14 -0700

BEST BABY ALIVE

Dior smartphone!

Sat, 27 Aug 2011 09:22:53 -0700

Dior smartphone!

Nicole Miller

Sat, 27 Aug 2011 08:45:14 -0700

Nicole Miller

howimetyourmothergifs: Barney: Look at us! It’s like three of...

Thu, 25 Aug 2011 22:07:08 -0700

howimetyourmothergifs:

Barney: Look at us! It’s like three of the same guy. Oh my god. This explains why I was always so awesome at basketball. Guys, I’m black! Sorry. African-American. No! I’m allowed to say either.

How I Met Your Mother 6.02 - “Cleaning House”

Katsuyo Aoki ceramic skull

Wed, 24 Aug 2011 22:44:07 -0700

Katsuyo Aoki ceramic skull

This is what I’m about to sound like reading to my...

Wed, 24 Aug 2011 22:42:26 -0700

This is what I’m about to sound like reading to my grandkids in the very far future. Hahahaha

Stussy x MadeMe

Sun, 21 Aug 2011 11:18:48 -0700

Stussy x MadeMe

"Confidence is the secret to all beauty. There is no beauty that is attractive without confidence."

Fri, 19 Aug 2011 00:22:33 -0700

“Confidence is the secret to all beauty. There is no beauty that is attractive without confidence.”

YUP

Fri, 19 Aug 2011 00:04:23 -0700

YUP

I can’t. Verbalize how much I love these. Daphne Guinness

Wed, 17 Aug 2011 00:40:23 -0700

I can’t. Verbalize how much I love these.

Daphne Guinness